You want to reconnect NOW. You fear if too much time lapses your ex will move on to someone new. Like a lost child you wait in place… hoping they’ll return.
The automatic response to an unwanted breakup is to stay frozen. We fear any forward movement will break the ties that bound us to our mate. If we just stay in place they’ll know where to find us. So we wait. And wait.
The action we need to take is contrary to our instincts:
Forward movement […]