The morning after my most recent breakup from a serious relationship, I woke up, wiped off my mascara-stained face and wrote out advice for myself in list form. Item one read: “Breakups are excruciating as a default, you can’t escape that.” While that bummer of a truism isn’t the most empowering, I charged on with my list and ended up with a huge document of ideas of things to do after a breakup. And I found it to be hugely helpful as I navigated the […]
Here Are the Four Horsemen Behaviors Coined by John Gottman That Will Ruin Your Marriage | Parade Magazine interview
If you want to learn what the top four predictors of divorce are—and how to avoid them—then you’ll first want to know a little something about John Gottman—the guy who conducted this groundbreaking research starting in 1992.
Dr. John Gottman was a psychologist who studied relationship and marriage stability, along with his wife Dr. Julie Gottman. Together, they founded The Gottman Institute. Through a series of landmark studies, Dr. Gottman was able to predict with 94 percent […]
Taylor Swift once said, “never trust a narcissist.” And she’s right—especially because trusting a narcissist might lead to a breakup with a narcissist. And that’s fun for no one. Ending any relationship, in any circumstance tends to fall somewhere between “unpleasant” and “downright horrible,” but when you’re contending with a narcissist, a unique set of challenges may emerge.
“Narcissists are very self-absorbed and selfish, so they talk about what they want and what they […]
By MARY GRACE GARIS
Ah, taking a break: It’s a tale as old as…well, at least the third season of Friends. But, does the strategy ever actually strengthen a relationship, or is it more so a tactic for delaying the inevitable (read: a full-blown breakup)?
Short answer: It depends—and on a lot of different variables. For instance, how serious are you and your partner? And, is the reason for the break a clear and present problem? While teasing out these answers isn’t always the most straightforward of […]
Ah, love: It can make us blind. That is, until the rose-tinted glasses come off, and you see your partner for what they really are: human.
Like you, your significant other is bound to have a few quirks. Maybe you overlooked the way he has to tuck his napkin into his shirt and slurp spaghetti like a 5-year-old (in public), or the way she leaves unfolded laundry in the basket for days after it’s been washed. But sometimes minor habits can […]