By: Shelby Slauer
Breakups can be hard, but sometimes they don’t spell the end of a relationship. While movies make us think exes are going to make grand gestures to get you back, that isn’t always the case. There can be low-key signs that your ex is trying to win you over again (although it doesn’t necessarily mean you should get back together).
INSIDER spoke with best-selling author and relationship expert, Susan Winter, and dating and relationships expert Sameera Sullivan, to find out what signs show that a former significant other still wants you.
They still like and comment on your social media posts.
It can be hard to get over an ex, especially if you can still see what they’re doing on social media. So if your ex is still interacting with you on social media, it may mean they’re interested in getting back together.
“Social media is where all this covert seduction [takes place],” Winters said. You may have unfollowed them on social media, but they keep liking your posts or commenting, or even sending you memes they know you’d like, in order to get your attention.
They’re posting things on social media only you would understand.
Winters said this could mean “to post a song that they specifically know their ex is going to see that means something to pull at their heartstrings or remind them of something.”
“Whatever song or common interest the two of you had, whatever it is that you had that you shared together, you will see them starting to post these sorts of things and it’s supposed to be your call to action, to seduce engagement,” she added.
They post on social media letting people know they’re available.
This could mean “a statement or phrase that lets their ex know that there’s a chance for the future, or that they’re single. It’s all ego preservation,” Winters said. It could also be something as casual as a joke about being alone.