INSIDER spoke with relationship expert and matchmaker, Sonya Kreizman, and best-selling author and relationship expert, Susan Winter, to find out signs from the experts themselves that your relationship is basically over.

You don’t laugh anymore.

If happiness is draining from your relationship, you really start to feel it. “If you’ve come to notice that you no longer laugh as you used to and there seems to be very little joy in the relationship, it’s not a good sign. As a couple, your emotional life has flatlined,” said Winter.

You’re seeing what else is out there.

Maybe a little curiosity is normal at times when things start to get a little stagnant, but there’s a certain point where it’s a cause for concern, according to Winter, “when you can no longer deny that other people are looking good to you. The thought of being with someone new is an exciting concept. Though there’s a tinge of guilt, your interest in others has become a regular occurrence.”

Even going as far as to explore those interests is a clear sign something is wrong. “If you are looking around on dating apps or elsewhere for meaningful connections or for someone to understand you, it’s a sign the relationship is pretty much over,” according to Kreizman.

There’s no effort being put into the relationship or its future.

This can show up in a number of different ways, unfortunately, during different stages of the relationship.

“When either partner begins to plan future events without sharing these plans with the significant other, things aren’t looking good,” explained Kreizman. “For example, I once had a boyfriend whom I was living with who decided to move to another state without telling me. He first told his business partners and then I found out later as we were breaking up.” According to Kreizman, it’s also a giant red flag if you stop talking about future plans like moving in, marriage, and kids and if one person is seeking help through counseling and the other refuses to go.

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