When you’re navigating a brand new relationship, it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of it all before realizing things are moving too quickly. While committing to another person is a fulfilling experience, there are ways to tell if you should take a step back and slow down, Rachel Sussman, a New York City-based therapist, told INSIDER.
“We should take our time to know a person and make sure they are who they appear to be,” Sussman said. She added that trust is earned over time and through experience, so rushing into something won’t allow trust to form naturally.
These are the signs to look out for if you might think your new relationship is moving too fast.
You plan multiple dates in one week
While going on dates is a great way to get to know someone, Sussman told INSIDER that planning too many get-togethers can be a sign that you’re moving too fast.
“You want to be able to process it and think about that person after the date and miss them even,” Sussman said, adding that going on lots of dates in a short time span won’t allow for that processing period. She recommended one date per week when you’re just starting to see a new person.
You just got out of another relationship
If your new relationship is following another relationship you recently ended, it could be a sign you need to slow down. There is no specific amount of time you should take between relationships, but you do need to come to terms with why your relationship ended and resolve any feelings (both positive and negative) you have about your ex, Susan Winter, an NYC-based relationship expert, previously told INSIDER.
“Take it slow because if you fall for someone, they can end it at any time,” Sussman said. “Ask yourself if you’re in a space to handle that.”