Uh-oh: Your (seemingly innocent) daily habits — like scrolling through Insta in bed — could be destroying your marriage. “Research shows that there are a lot of little things people do that can indicate serious problems in relationships,” says Carrie Cole, a couples therapist and certified Gottman master trainer at the Center for Relationship Wellness in Houston. The good news? Even if you’re having problems now, it doesn’t mean you’re headed for divorce. A recent survey found that couples are more likely to try to work things out — and break the bad habits they’ve developed — than they were even 10 years ago. We’re all for keeping you out of the lawyer’s office, so watch out for these bad habits that couples therapists say always end in a split.
Inability to meet eye-to-eye financially.
Ongoing resentments and a lack of appreciation.
Talking trash behind each other’s backs.
Fixating on what your hubs doesn’t do well.
Never putting yourself in your partner’s shoes.
Starting fights with your (figurative) fists up.
Not knowing when to press pause on a fight.
Always putting on a good face.
Not fighting at all.
Waiting too long to deal with your issues.