- A man on Reddit claimed being on the keto diet ruined a date for him.
- The man’s date, who had just finished nursing school, clashed with him over the restrictive nature of the diet.
- According to others on Reddit, having issues with dating due to the keto diet is fairly common.
There are many ways to ruin your love life in 2018. You could be a Trump staffer, send an invoice after someone ghosts on you, or soil your pants on a first date. Or you could just be on the keto diet.
Many people credit the low-carb, high-fat ketogenic diet as an effective weight loss method (and, depending on who you ask, an aphrodisiac). But according to one post from a young man on Reddit, the diet actually caused a significant setback in his dating life.
In the post — aptly titled “Keto ruined a date for me” — Reddit user Typical_Iowan_Male wrote that he and his date (both 22) clashed when the topic of the keto diet came up the first time they hung out.
“Everything was going great until she mentioned carbs,” he wrote. “She was saying stuff like, ‘A healthy diet requires 40-60% of your energy to come from carbs. Your brain only runs off of glucose.’ To which I replied that your brain can run off of ketone bodies as well.”
Apparently, his date had just graduated from nursing school, so the mention of ketone bodies (chemicals the body creates when there isn’t enough insulin in the blood, which theoretically causes the body to burn its fat stores) was appalling to her.
Things only got worse when he brought up intermittent fasting, another trendy diet method.
“I tried to explain that both a ketogenic diet and intermittent fasting have certain health benefits, but I could tell I was upsetting her, so I dropped it,” Typical_Iowan_Male (who did not immediately respond to INSIDER’s request for comment) wrote in the post. “The chemistry we had just wasn’t the same afterwards, and I don’t think I’ll get a second date.”
Frustration with dating is fairly common among keto dieters on Reddit.
As it turns out, Typical_Iowan_Male is not the only person who has experienced a shift in their dating life after becoming a keto practitioner.
In response to his original post, Reddit user Nobuko44 wrote, “You know how they say don’t talk about politics on a first date? We should probably add keto and IF [intermittent fasting] to that list.”
Reddit user Owlofthemorning agreed, writing, “I’m learning that keto is like religion and politics. Just…easier if I don’t discuss.”
Another Redditor, Encogneeto, also seemed to feel as though keto was akin to a religion — and that refraining from actively recruiting anyone to it is difficult. They wrote, “I know what it must feel like to be a Christian missionary. I see people who look like they could benefit from keto, and I want to proselytize.”
A cursory Reddit search of the words “keto” and “dating” reveals much of the same. One Reddit user wrote their dating standards had changed so much since starting the diet that they didn’t even want to date anyone who hadn’t “man’d up” like them. Someone else speculated about the possibility of starting a keto-only dating site, so “all the single people can unify their love for health, good eating and bacon.” Yet another Reddit user wrote that they stopped dating altogether after starting the keto diet.
The keto diet isn’t the only diet or lifestyle choice that has become a standard some people use in dating.
Trendy diets are easy targets for mockery, so it’s tempting to blame the keto diet as a catalyst for the demise of relationships everywhere. But, some people are just as quick to use other lifestyle choices like veganism, yoga, the Paleo diet, and more to help them figure out who to date. And, in some cases, such choices might make them unappealing to people they want to date.
“Our diet can become like a fetish,” relationship expert Susan Winter told INSIDER. “People are very passionate about their diets and forms of exercise. They’re as passionate about that as they are about politics, philosophy, or any current events that seem to spark a conversation.”
Ultimately, it’s not such a bad idea to ensure that, if you are passionate about a certain type of lifestyle, the people you date are in basic agreement with it.
“If it’s fundamental to how you live your life day-to-day, then it’s wise to make sure that your partner is on the same page,” Winter told INSIDER.
They don’t need to be doing the exact same thing as you, of course, but they should be supportive of your choices.
Did Typical_Iowan_Male discover that a little sooner than he might have liked? Perhaps.
Setbacks in his dating life notwithstanding, however, he doesn’t appear to regret his choice to do the keto diet — nor does it seem as though he’s going to give it up anytime soon.
“Despite the romantic shortcomings, a ketogenic diet has allowed me to lose 30 pounds and keep it off,” he wrote.
So, if there is a lesson to be learned here, it may be that you should let your dates know about your dieting and lifestyle quirks as soon as you can. Just don’t expect that doing so will get you another date.