by Marianne Garvey March 28, 2016 • 3:40 PM ET
The comic and the actress are engaged and everyone thinks it’s a trick.
For one, their age difference equals one Kellan Lutz, 31. Jon Lovitz, 58, and Jessica Lowndes, 27, are making heads across America explode, simply by announcing they are engaged. The 90210 actress spent Easter with the former SNL star snapping selfies and declaring their love for anyone with WiFi. “Easter with my bunny!” Jon captioned a picture of the two, throwing in some heart emojis in case we didn’t get it. Jessica had teased a picture of a shiny engagement ring, not immediately revealing who the gifter was.
She also posted a snap of a hand on her thigh, writing, “His hands are wise and tell a thousand stories… #smitten#hatersgonnahate”
But why does no one believe their love is real? Well, because he’s got money and she’s super hot. Jon’s ex, Janice Dickinson even called her former flame “great in bed” when they were dating, but no one would buy it.
Jon’s even fighting back against the haters on Twitter, replying to one who wrote “proof money is the answer.” Jon wrote back, “My pleasure! Now work on getting personality.”
To one who wrote “nice daughter,” he replied “nice jealousy!”
Chrissy Teigen even weighed in, tweeting “I smell April fools on this lowndes/lovitz relationship but if I’m wrong whoops jk screw everyone f the haters do you, you two.”
So why do most people assume these two are up to something?
New York City based relationship expert Susan Winter explains that people assume every age-varied relationship has an agenda.
“Whether it’s an older man with a younger woman (or its reverse), there’s one possibility that’s constantly overlooked; They may actually love each other,” she says. “Before judging a relationship based on its age difference, perhaps we should ask ourselves if we too haven’t fallen for someone who wasn’t considered ‘appropriate’ in society’s eyes. Love happens. Connection happens. Two seemingly unsuited partners can indeed find their way to each other’s hearts.”
Susan adds that people make judgments with a limited perspective, and that our viewpoint is often tainted or biased.
“A sense of humor is one of the top qualities people request in their online dating profiles. Jon’s a funny guy. Why wouldn’t Jessica find that compelling?” she asks. “Ageism is one of the last barriers of discrimination we have today. That’s the heart of what you’re seeing here in terms of backlash. Youth and beauty have long been traded for power and status. I don’t know why a format as antiquated as this should suddenly seem suspect in this couple’s romance. Marriage is about stability. We date the hot guy. But if we’re smart, we marry the stable guy.”
*The couple’s ‘marriage’ story a publicity stunt. However, the conversation on ageism (and its discrimination) is real. Ageism exists, and has been used against many couples who don’t “look” as though they belong together. Judging couples on their differences rather than their resonance happens all the time (especially when the woman is older partner). Often, it takes articles such as this to push the discussion forward and open everyone’s mind.