Attention men! If you are actively meeting and dating women, or looking to find someone special, you must get your dating practices down pat. And this starts with knowing how to go on first dates!

First dates are often boring, awkward, unexciting, and even torturous to many men. Guys build up the occasion in their mind for days or weeks beforehand, only to be severely let down after the fact. Too much pressure, too little chemistry, not enough fun, not enough attraction, nothing accomplished—all of these disappointments crush men in their pursuit of love.

You see, most guys have zero idea about what to do on a first date. They don’t know where to go, what to say, how to act, and most importantly, they don’t know how to set up a second date!

Yes, all is lost by the end of most first dates, and there is little hope for men to correct these issues . . . Until now!

Here’s 40 of the best first date tips ever assembled—from some of the greatest dating coaches, relationship coaches, matchmakers, lifestyle coaches, and social experts on the planet! Take their tips and their advice and really soak them in. Many of these professionals have been helping men just like you for years and years; so believe in what they say.

Follow their steps, and your next first date will go great! And yes, it may be your last first date.


first date tips #1

Susan Winter

1. Know why you’re dating

Take a moment to do your mental preparation before you meet your date. Why are you
dating? What’s your end-goal? Are you ready for a committed relationship or dating for fun?
Knowing the answer to these questions allows you to engage in a manner consistent with your
desires. When your intentions are clear, your meeting will be purposeful.

2. Show up as yourself

Posturing some “better” version of whom you’d like to present is misleading to your date and
sets the wrong tone for future interactions. It’s a game that can’t be maintained and
guarantees dissatisfaction for both parties. The goal of dating is to find someone who wants
what you want, and wants that with you. That’s only possible by starting with the ‘real you.’

3. Have fun

Make up your mind, in advance, to have fun. Dating is a numbers game. Every time you meet
someone new, you’re gaining vital information as to what you want (and don’t want) in a
partner. No matter the outcome, this attitude allows you to walk away with a gain you can

Susan Winter (Allowing Magnificence and Older Women/Younger Men) is a bestselling author and relationship expert specializing in today’s evolving forms of loving partnership and higher thinking. Check out her site:

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Justin Stenstrom is a nationally acclaimed life coach, author, entrepreneur, and speaker. He is the founder of, the author of the book Giving Shy Guys Game, and the host of the Elite Man Podcast on iTunes. His mission is to provide men with the best tools to become complete gentleman.