If you are a man interested in dating older women you need to take a different approach than you have in the past. There are some important differences, both large and small, that you need to know and we have enlisted a panel of 44 dating and relationship experts to help make you more successful!
If you read through the incredible advice below you are bound to pick up at least a few things that will improve your chances. Take a look and then get out there and put it to use!
TOP TIPS FOR DATING OLDER WOMEN
What the experts say as their top advice when meeting and dating older women:
1. GET YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT
Scot Mckay profileSCOT MCKAY – DESERVEWHATYOUWANT.COM
Make sure neither one of you is in the relationship specifically because of the other’s age. Otherwise, the priorities may be off, unless both of you are only about a quick fling.
Scot is one of the most recognized and effective dating coaches to both men and women on the global stage. Now a four-time Amazon #1 bestselling author, over 400 media outlets have consulted him, including ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox, BBC, MTV, Lifetime, Men’s Health and The Wall Street Journal.
2. HER VALUES ARE NOT THE SAME AS A YOUNGER WOMAN
Cheyenne Bostock profileCHEYENNE BOSTOCK – ASKCHEYB.COM
The secret to a successful relationship with an older woman is the same with a younger woman. Be gentle, be kind, be fun and be loving.
When dating an older woman, know that her values are not the same as a younger woman. While sex is important, it won’t be her priority. The solution in this scenario is to invest more time in romance and intimacy, which will get her in the mood for sex more often.
Cheyenne Bostock is a Life & Relationship Expert and Motivational Speaker best known for his straight shooting relationship advice and transformational coaching strategies that have helped him go from homeless to success and has impacted the lives of many individuals who are on the path from homeless to success.
He is the author of two self-help books and writer for The Huffington Post and Inc Magazine, a regular contributing expert on The Bill Cunningham Show.
3. DON’T WASTE THEIR TIME
Lucia profileLUCIA – HOWTOCATCHACOUGAR.NET
Older women are interested in younger men, not younger boys. They want a man who is mature and confident. They know if a man is being dishonest or playing games. They don’t want to waste their time, so they won’t hesitate to move on sooner rather than later.
Lucia is a dating/relationship expert specializing in Cougar relationships, author of “Lucia’s Lessons of Love”, former host of “The Art of Love” on L.A. Talk Radio and a keynote speaker.
She has appeared on over 100 national and international TV and radio shows including Dr. Phil, The Tyra Banks Show, E! Entertainment, 60 Minutes Australia, The CBS Early Show, ABC 7 News, Good Day L.A and the KTLA News who called her “The Queen of The Cougar Jungle”.
4. DON’T TRY TO OUTMATCH OLDER MEN WHEN DATING OLDER WOMEN
Kezia Noble ProfileKEZIA NOBLE – KEZIA-NOBLE.COM
Never play the same game as the more mature man. Often younger guys try to outmatch the older guy, by pretending to be more experienced, worldly, wisely and even successful than he is. This is not what an older woman wants from a younger guy. She wants a man who is excited about life rather than jaded, positive rather than cynical, impulsive rather than cautious.
You need to show her how desirable you think she is as this is what older women hear less often the older they get. There’s no point in trying to intellectually stimulate her or have deep and meaningful conversations with her, because she can get that from men her own age. She is looking for someone who can give her the thrill and experience that men used to provide her before everything became so predicable and dull.
Dating and attraction expert for men. Kezia has helped over 80,000 men get real results with women.
5. GENUINELY MAKE HER FEEL LIKE SHE’S STILL GOT IT
Dan Bacon profileDAN BACON – THEMODERNMAN.COM
As a woman ages into her 30s, 40s and 50s, her physical appearance will no longer look the same as she did when she was in her 20s. This may begin to eat away at the confidence that she has in her sex appeal.
If a man is genuinely attracted to an older woman, he must ensure that he doesn’t hold back from showing his sexual attraction for her. Be confident and sincere when you say to her, “Wow, you look sexy today” rather than hiding your attraction and saying, “Oh, you look nice today.”
Dan Bacon is a dating and relationship expert who helps men succeed with women. He teaches men how to naturally attract women to get a girlfriend, as well as how to deepen a woman’s attraction, respect and love when in a relationship.
6. ENJOY BEING YOUNGER AROUND THEM
Marni profileMARNI KINRYS – WINGGIRLMETHOD.COM
The thing that older women like about younger men is their youth, excitement for life and energy level 😉 So my advice to men wanting to date older women is to enjoy being younger around them because that is what will attract them. Show your youth and remind her of what it was like to be young, carefree and with someone that doesn’t konk out at 9pm with giving her an orgasm 😉
Marni teaches men how to understand women so they can attract, date & GET any woman they want. Coach, TV & Radio Personality & Best Selling Author of Get Inside Her
7. GIVE HER THE SPACE SHE NEEDS
James Preece profileJAMES PREECE – JAMESPREECE.COM
If you want to have a successful relationship with an older woman then you must remember to give her the space she needs. She’ll be independent with her own routines, interests and friends. So she won’t need to be with you all the time in the same way a younger woman might.
Be respectful of her wishes and you’ll appreciate the time you spend much more.
James Preece is the UK’s leading Dating Coach. He has clients all over the world and is the author of 8 best selling dating books, including the Amazon Number One best seller Online Dating Guide “I will Make You Click!”
8. WHILE YOU MAY BE TEMPTED TO ONLY TEXT, DON’T…
Claudia Cox profileCLAUDIA COX – TEXTWEAPON.COM
Dating an older woman can be a fantastic experience, but don’t forget that texting is an area where you need to know what you’re doing. While you may be tempted to only text, don’t.
Make sure that you pick up the phone from time to time and actually call her. Even if you feel you have no reason to call, do so just to tell her you were craving the sound of her voice. She’ll appreciate it!
Also, when you do message her, watch your use of text speak and acronyms. She might be from another generation – maybe she didn’t grow up using cell phones – and she could easily become lost or turned off.
Remember what a good deal you’re getting trading your use of ‘lol’ for her experience and passion! Don’t make it hard work for her to communicate with you. Seduce her with your words – take the necessary time to write text messages that play with humor, images, and fantasies.
Claudia is the creator of Text Weapon, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She is passionate about modern communication and loves helping people improve their relationships through flirty texting. To read more by Claudia, visit TextWeapon.com.
9. LET HER KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE EXTENDS BEYOND HER AGE
Susan Winter profileSUSAN WINTER – SUSANWINTER.NET
As a younger man, you’ll need to understand some of her hesitancy about this relationship. She’s been programmed with centuries of negative beliefs that “it can’t go anywhere” and “it can’t last.”
Your primary job will be to reinforce the love you share and let her know that what you have extends beyond age. She may fear you’ll leave her for a younger woman, fight you on making it more than a fling, and assume it’s only sexual. Stay positive, consistent, and strong in your conviction.
As seen on OPRAH, bestselling author/relationship expert Susan Winter (Allowing Magnificence and Older Women/Younger Men) specializes in evolutionary forms of loving partnership and higher thinking. She writes, speaks and coaches on accessing our inherent perfection in life and love.